Making Peace With Now

One of the most misunderstood strategies of attraction is surrendering into your current reality. The topic typically comes up when you decide you want to upgrade one aspect of your life and yet you’re stuck facing a reality that you don’t love.

What to do, what to do?

Don’t lie and try to convince yourself that you like what you’re looking at. However, you can stop resisting it. You can also find aspects of your current reality that you can appreciate. It is important that you make peace with current reality, otherwise you won’t be able to shake it loose to upgrade to your next reality.

I’ll use creating more income as an example. If your business currently attracts $3000 a month, yet you need to pull in more than $5000 to pay your business and living expenses, how do you make peace with that?

Here are some suggestions:

• Appreciate the money you are making.
• Appreciate that you are paying some of your expenses.
• Appreciate your current and past clients, customers and patients.
• Acknowledge that you are in transition, and it takes some time to see results.
• Acknowledge the courage it takes to own your own business.
• Get excited about your forthcoming income upgrade.
• Let go of past mistakes or that you think you should be farther along in the process of generating income.
• Use this transition time to align your thoughts, beliefs and focus with your intended income outcome.

Soothing your emotions into a place of peace, or at least acceptance, will allow the new beliefs, strategies and ideas to come forth to assist you to upgrade your income.

Give as little attention as possible to the pain of your current financial situation unless you are using it to learn information to create solutions.

There is actually nothing bad about your current reality except the label that you put on it. Don’t see your reality as a big hairy deal, because when you do, it becomes a big hairy deal. I’ve been in deep debt and watched my income go from six figures to under $50,000 in a year. I was beating myself up pretty bad and nothing was shifting.

The first thing I did was to make a decision about upgrading back into six figures. The next step was to make peace with my situation. I had made myself very wrong for allowing my finances to get so low, especially knowing what I know about this topic. I had to let it all go! As soon as I made peace with it all, I felt instant relief. Releasing my resistance opened me up to step back into six figures within nine months.

© 2010 Master Peace Coaching

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When I was reading my AbeList email this morning, I came across this amazing post by Gary. He gave me his permission to post it to my blog. To me, it is an absolutely amazing, spot on, synopsis of Abraham’s work. Enjoy the read, and remember, GET HAPPY!

Vickie

I’ve decided to write a Welcome to Abraham doc. It seems many people have similar questions when they’re first starting out and they’re the same questions I had. And I think I can put a different spin on it that may make Abe’s message a little easier to understand.

For reading material, I would recommend Ask And It Is Given. It is the standard upon which the other books are based.

As far as an overview, it’s much simpler than you would think. All this talk of allowing and vibration and downstream and The Vortex just boils down to getting happy regardless of what is. Once you can be happy most of the time, you start allowing.

So instead of the three steps (asking, answering, allowing), I see it as two steps. And you only have to do one of them.

1) Get happy to the point where you can love almost every thing about every moment of every day. This state of being is called The Vortex. The happier you are, the higher your vibration.

2) Then the Law of Attraction (LOA) will bring you more things to make you feel that way, including whatever you desire. The better it gets, the better it gets.

Sometimes the processes and stuff can all seem so overwhelming but they all have just one goal in mind – to get you happy. There are lots of ways to make yourself feel better. Finding what works for you is your job.

“Your true nature is one of an infinitely, all knowing, joyous being that never, ever considers anything that ever happens in your physical experience as negative.” In other words, it’s all good.

Basically, we are eternal beings and this is just one lifetime. Who cares if I have a lot of bills right now? Or if my lover left me? Or my car just got totaled? I mean in the grand scheme of things, this is just the tiniest blip of a blip. Even within your own lifetime, it’s not that important. So don’t let it lower your emotion.

Regarding taking action to further your desires, you can take action, but do it because you want to do it, because you love to do it! Not because you have to do it or need to do it. That’s what Abe means by “inspired action”. And you’ll find that if you love to do it, you will want to continue doing it regardless of your immediate results. And if you can not worry about stuff not showing up and just do it because you love to do it, then the results must come.

Your only real job is to get happy. Again, your only job is to get happy. Wait, YOUR ONLY JOB IS TO GET HAPPY! LOL. Sorry about that – couldn’t resist.

And when I say “happy”, I mean really, really happy. Like literally loving everybody! Feeling the love in everyone you meet. Knowing that you are connected to every being on this planet and beyond. Loving every second of every minute of every hour of every day. Being able to appreciate everything about everything. It’s one thing trying to be happy despite what is, it’s another being happy *regardless* of what is. In the first instance there are negative happenings that are bothering you but you’re trying not to think about them; in the second instance you realize that there are no negative happenings and it’s all good.

So, even if you were to lose your job and your car and your spouse and your house, if you are happy then the Universe will provide for you and your life will become richer than you ever thought (and not just spiritually richer). And that’s a law of the Universe! Weird, huh?

It’s completely opposite from what we’ve been taught about hard work. I’ve found from personal experience that the less “forced” work I do, the more goofing around and watching movies and enjoying myself that I do, the closer I get to my dreams. It doesn’t necessarily make sense, but it works. Not overnight, but it works. This is where the expression “Let go, let God” comes in handy.

When I first started on this path, I figured it would be the manifestations that would make me happy and LOA was a shortcut to the manifestations. What I found is that once I got into the Vortex, once I was happy about almost everything I did all day long that the formerly all-important manifestations just didn’t matter. You’ll be so happy, you won’t care which desires are manifesting and which aren’t. And, that’s when they will come!

Not that I don’t occasionally come out of the Vortex. But I know with a little effort I can go right back in. For me, I’ve found that whenever I get particularly stuck out of the Vortex because I’m worrying about something or doubting my self worth, etc. that the best thing for me is meditation. It just quiets my mind and stops all the negative chatter going on in my head. I can then see things more clearly and can easily move back in afterwards.

In addition to our overall happiness set point, we also have different vibrations on different subjects. We feel a certain way about our work, our spouse, our house, our parents, etc. We have “expectations” around these things that are not always positive. If you are feeling badly about something, you need to clean up your vibration about that subject. This is what Abe means when they say not to put a happy sticker on something. So acknowledge the feelings you have but then move on – clean up your vibration. Get to the point where you are happy about all subjects.

Lastly, you are the only creator of your life. No one else can impact your creation. You can choose to allow others to affect you, but that is your choice. You can just as easily see them differently or not let them affect you at all. No one else needs to do anything for you to be happy. It’s all you. When you clean up your vibration about a certain person, they will change to match.

“A happy life is just a string of happy moments. But most people don’t allow the happy moment, because they’re so busy trying to get a happy life.”

Welcome and enjoy your journey!

Gary (from TheAbeList)

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I came across a great video series on YouTube yesterday that combines the teaching of Abraham and EFT. They are pretty cool. They are best for people who are on the higher end of the emotional scale though as he uses affirmations that might get all off in the bushes if you aren’t already feeling pretty good.

Abraham Hicks Workshop
Stamford CT 5/29/2010
Masters CD 2 Track 10
“Getting His Daughter to Clean Her Room”

Hot Seater: Alright, I’ve got one more. It might be impossible. How can I get my daughter to clean her room? Should I just leave?

Abraham: The conversation that your inner beings are having is your daughter’s inner being is saying “How can I get my dad to stop trying to control the uncontrollable and understand what is his business and what isn’t?”

And the profound, inspirsed answer was Keep a messy room. You’ll wear him down in time. He’ll come to understand that..that…because conditional love is “I feel better when your room is clean and I want to feel good so I’m making my happiness dependant on your behavior.” And this rebellious source energy being within is remembering “Oh no no no no noooo. We said that we would be catalyst to one another to help one another remember unconditional love. We would help one another remember that when you try to control the uncontrollable you just end up out of the vortex. And when you control the only thing you can control, which is your relationship to the vortex, then you tune into the energy that creates worlds and then your influence is powerful.

Now we just gave you the law based version of this, now we will give you the nitty gritty details of how we would go about it because it’s alright. You have the right to desire a room to be clean. We’re really not saying that it’s none of your business. It’s in your house. You see it effect the way things go on. There’s disorder and therefore disorganization and therefore it can have ramifications on the household and other people. In other words, we’re playing with you when we say it doesn’t effect you because, of course, it does. But when we say “it’s none of your business” we mean that in this deep deep sense. What IS your business is your alignment and anything that you use as an excuse to not be in alignment, you’re misusing it, you see.

And so, it’s like “I can’t feel good until they plug the oil spill or I can’t feel good until the economy improves or I can’t feel good for this…” there’s always some excuse that people are using. Some small reasons by the scope of human events and some big reasons but people keep using so many things as their excuse to not be in alignment with who they are. And the bottom line is, there is no excuse. There is no justifiable excuse to hold yourself out of alignment with who you are. And some of the people that, who mean the most to you have come with that very powerful intention for – you’ve come with a sort of co-intention to help each other remember that we’re not going to spend, we’re not going to WASTE our lives trying to control uncontrollable things. Instead we’re going to contol the only thing we can control which is our opinion, which is our relationship with who we really are. And when we control that relationship with our being in the vortex, now law of attraction brings everything else into being.

And that’s that power of influence, that we were talking about. When you’re tuned into the fullness of who you are, you’re sending one signal. And when you send one signal, you’re more powerful than millions who are out there with mixed signals. So it works liek this – So the room is messy, you want it to be orderly. Your daughter is, is, sort of out of sorts, you want her to feel good. A lot of things you put into your vortex as a result of that one, ongoing issue. So you’ve been building this, this version of your daughter and her relationship with her room and her relationship with life and her relationship with the family. You’ve been building this version for a long time that you get to do. In other words, every person that you meet, even if you just meet them on the elevator, you actually put a version of them, as they relate to you, into your vortex. And then, you have one responsibility, isn’t the perfect word, but it will do. You have one responsibility, only. And that is to live up to the version that you put there. Which isn’t easy to do when she’s over there living the version that inspired it.

And so, what happens is, you’ve put a different version into your vortex. She’s still living the old version. You’re, in your now, observing the old version, using it as the excuse not to be in alignment with the new version.

Are you following this? This is REALLY a good discussion because it’s what happens so often. The people, that you interact with, have helped you to co-create this vortex that you now, owe it to yourself, to live up to. And when you don’t, no matter what the reason, you don’t feel good.

So this is what your daughter and you both knew before you came into these bodies. “If I”, speaking from your daughter’s point of view, “If I adjust my behavior, so that it matches my father’s version, then he doesn’t have to do any focusing in order to feel better.”

Oh, stay with us, this is really, really important. “I’ll be a pleaser. I’ll scamper around and try to figure out as best I can, I can’t do it very well because, as we talked earlier, everybody’s got a different perception of things, but I’ll do my best, to be such a reader of people’s minds, and such a deliverer of what they want, I’ll be such a pleaser that I’ll do my very best to live up to their version of the vortex.”

And many people would say, “Well, good child. You get the gold star. You make mommy happy. You make teachers happy. You are a high performer. You are fitting in all of the right niches.” And we say, what you’re really doing, pleaser person, that you didn’t mean to do, is that you are making it unnecessary for your father to ever tend to his own vortex. And you’re the only one who’s going to do it because you care so much about him. And, so, and usually it’s the other way around. It’s a parent or a.. Children try to please their parents. It’s a natural thing. And parents … *laughter* especially in the beginning.

Hot Seater: In the beginning…

Abraham: What we’re getting at is, there’s a bigger intention that is brewing that, in most cases, doesn’t keep it going very long and then parents write books like, “Where did my little girl go? Oh I remember how you were in the beginning. We used to snuggle and nothing was more important to you than pleasing me. And THEN you became the demon child.” And you got the point, didn’t you. In other words, if… let’s take a, let’s take lovers who are… if you decide that this person’s approval matters so much to you, that you keep standing on your head to please them, two really screwy things happens. First is – You use them as your criteria so you train yourself away from your own guidance system. So then that person’s always got to be there and got to be consistent, which isn’t going to happen. The other thing that happens, that is equally screwy and unsettling, is that you train that person into feeling good, without doing the work of coming into alignment. So, now, they’re running around looking for other conditions to change and that’s how that whole spiral happens. Everybody is running around trying to get other people to change the condition. Look what happens, “You need to be our religion and if you’re not, we will obliterate your religion. We’ll blast you off the face of the earth. First we will try to convince you. Then we’ll coerce you, and then we’ll eliminate you if we can’t get you to come our way.” Or… or… And it goes on and on and on and on and on. In other words, this world tends to begin to propogate conformity for the sake of socialization and for the sake of then not having to do the work. In other words, it is a lot easier … it seems that “well if I look at I feel bad and if I look at that, I feel good so if I can just make that be that then all I have to do is look and I’ll feel good. So I’m going to be part of the crowd that tries to control conditions so that I can feel better.”

And we say, “How’s it working out?” It isn’t working out well at all. Where feel the ease of not trying to control the uncontrollable. It is just amazing to see your Earth response to an oil leak, that for the time being, appears to be uncontrollable. You’re not dealing with it very well emotionally, those who are wrapped up in it, because you can’t do anything about it and when you look at it, it makes you feel bad. This oil leak is sort of like your uncontrollable daughter giving you the option to come into alignment anyway because you have no choice.

Don’t you just love it? We just love to talk to people who are terminally ill because they’re more likely to do the only thing that works anyway, when they have no more options, you see.

So, that’s really what this is about. It is the subject of alignment for the sake of alignment, not justified alignment on the heels of controlling someone else.

Hot Seater: Thank you.

Abraham: Oh, wasn’t that good?