Law of Attraction, Neighborhood Dynamic and Kids

There has been some weirdness going on in our neighborhood as of late. Well, actually, it isn’t the whole neighborhood, but rather to one family in particular. My daughter happens to be friends with one of the girls in this family so she hears about all the not so nice things that seem to be happening.

I have come to realize that I am a witness to the law of attraction in action. The mom seems to have a very odd vibe around her. She seems to attract some not so pleasant things into her reality. For example, someone followed her home in a harassing manner and was bumping bumpers with her and then sped off when she got home. There are many other instances where what happened matched up with her apparent focus on the things in her life that she doesn’t like. I am fine with her path for the most part. The mama in me sometimes gets a little concerned though as my daughter is being exposed to all of this and, my opinion has always been, erroneously, that she was a bit of a gentle soul who would be frightened easily.

This past week, I came home to have my husband alert me to the fact that the neighbor had called to warn us of a peeping tom in the neighborhood who had scared her daughter at around 4:30 in the morning. She also wanted to tell us that we should be careful with our kids to keep them safe from this potential predator. It pissed me off. I did a bit of a rampage of not so niceness about the whole situation and then calmed myself down enough to sit down at the table with my children and explain what my feelings on the issue were.

Turns out, my daughter was aware of what was going on. She even told me that her friend across the street had supposedly seen this person in their yard as well. I was so proud of my daughter. She didn’t seem to be that rattled about the issue. I went on to explain that I wasn’t too concerned about it all. I asked my daughter if those types of bad things ever happened to us? She said no. I also pointed out that her friends family seems to have a heap of this type of bad luck. I explained that I believe that we get what we focus on. Her friend’s mom tends to focus on those sorts of things, and ends up getting what she is focusing on. My daughter readily agreed to that based on what she has heard and seen. I, on the other hand, believe that we are safe and that good things come our way based on what our point of focus is, and that is what happens. She seemed to understand and accept that reasoning.

Since that time, we have seen that family not allow their children to walk anywhere in the neighborhood. The family members drive them around to keep them safe. That is the right option for them, but not for us. Fear brings the things you fear. I choose to help my family focus on the fact that life is good and that only good things come our way. My daughter just finished a walk around the neighborhood with a friend unattended by an adult. They came home safe and sound, just as I knew they would and even more importantly, just as THEY knew they would.

As parents, we hope to help our children bloom and grow up strong and healthy. I am coming to realize that my children are teaching me so much more than I am teaching them if I leave them to do their thing without imposing what *I* think is best for them. Perhaps that is the lesson of love we need to learn, to let our children find their own way while we watch and learn. I love my life and my family. I so appreciate the wonderful interactions we have that help us all grow and learn.