I agree with everyone above, so do psychologists, that “getting it off your chest” is a good thing. I admire you for constantly putting yourself out there and sharing your personal experiences.

I too have personal experiences to share. However I by sharing some in the past, the mother of my children have used that information in legal issues and I’m hesitant to share once again to avoid giving her ammunition. I feel that I am about to cross that line soon.

I’m working on that relationship as well.

Blessed be.

I couldn’t have said it any better! What you said there is EXACTLY how it turned out in my case and I am greatful for the contrast. Not so cool in the midst but I am finding that I am moving out of the situations at a MUCH quicker pace than ever before.

That co-creating with someone you love can be really difficult at times can’t it?! Especially when the one that you love is hurting. I can say that this is probably one of the hugest growth / learning experiences I have had in a long, long time. Through his issues, I learn more and more about myself. That is a good thing out of it all LOL

You are right about the relief factor of it all. It did help to get it out and helped me to come into alignment with what it was that I was wanting which is an awesome thing!

You know, you are 100% correct about “really forces me to clarify my thoughts”. This post actually caused me to do a major intentional turn around in my situation. More to come in a post this evening…

Thanks for sharing your view point!

Many times, expressing the *stuff* is part of the relief process! I need to know where I am - I need to accept where I am — knowing I don’t want to stay here - I know where I want to go…. Off I go - sometimes quickly - sometimes slowly!

I hear where you are coming from - the contrast we are experiencing in our respective relationships is very similar… just change the sex of the partner and it’s almost dead on.

What you say about cementing it in place may be true, but doesn’t Abraham also talk about reaching for relief? As human beings, one of our needs is to express our emotions honestly. If expressing this brings you relief, then it’s exactly what needed to happen.

I think writing is one of the best things to do when you are confused. I find writing really forces me to clarify my thoughts.

Best of luck picking yourself up. Even the best of us get down every so often. Hang in there and things will get better again

Peter