Journey Toward Loving Yourself

It’s all about me. What is keeping me from being truly happy and in love with myself are my issues. MY Issues. Issues that I didn’t really realize where there. I have looked to others, outside of me, to make me feel good, and it just doesn’t work on a long term basis, nor is it fair on the people you are demanding it of.

In one of my recent posts, I received some very valuable feedback. Lauri supplied a wonderful quote from Abraham that really put my issues in perspective.

Don’t you find that interesting? That what you really want is a reason to vibrationally connect with who you really are.

And so, you ask so much of people because you say to them, “You need to be the one who causes me to feel good.” And what we want to say to all of you is:

If any of you are without the relationship of your dreams right now, that’s a wonderful thing. Because now you have an opportunity to work on the relationship that really matters first and foremost. And then, in that connection, the relationship of your dreams will come.

But you are going to discover the relationship of your dreams is really your own Inner Being. It’s that infusion of clarity and confidence and wellness, that’s what you are reaching for.

Abraham-Hicks – San Diego 2/7/04B

Jon shared his post about relationships that he made on the AbeList.

Both the quote and the post made me realize something that I hadn’t wanted to recognize in myself. The missing piece in this puzzle is love for myself, not love missing from other people. They are just reflecting back what I am putting out there vibrationally. Jon recommended to his friend that he do three Lists of Positive Aspects. One for his marriage, one for his wife and one for himself. I thought about those lists, for my situation, and found that I could do the first two quite easily, but when it came to do one for myself, I froze. Something in me wouldn’t allow myself to do this exercise for what I liked in myself. Wow. What a deep revelation. I have been pensively thinking this over for a couple of days. I have known I have had self worth issues for, hmmm, forever, I guess. It is those ingrained beliefs that were learned in childhood still hanging around.

I have been working on the, non beneficial, beliefs for a while, and still have a ways to go until I have them moved them all to better feeling beliefs. I have moved many of these beliefs, over the past years, which is why my life has been heading in such wonderful direction. It is just a matter of time until I get the other rogue beliefs dealt with.

I have been working on the issues using EFT, listening to Abraham, and other teachers, like Byron Katie and Wayne Dyer. I am trying to do The Work on these beliefs but feel the resistance well up in me each time. I listened to her cd set, Your Inner Awakening, and felt great resistance to a lot of what she was talking about. I stuck it out though. I moved from that work to Making Your Thoughts Work For You with Wayne Dyer and Bryon Katie. For some reason, this one really spoke to me and what Katie had to say on this CD set caused a light bulb to go on for me. I am feeling progress towards what I am looking for.

Reviewing her work on Amazon, I can see two more that are talking to me so they are in my cart waiting for me to checkout:

- Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
- I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

In addition to The Work, I have been perusing the EmoFree website to see what I can uncover that I can use.

I have come up with several articles there that address the beliefs instilled in childhood that may be of use to many people out there.

- “My Mother Didn’t Love Me”
- EFT and self image
- Using EFT for mother issues
- Soft language to ease The EFT Set-Up Phrases

While these articles are stepping stones to my issues, I know I need to find MY core issues that I am holding onto which are holding me back from what it is I want in life – my connection with the loving me.

What I would really like to do is take a day away and find a nice quiet place near a babbling brook where I can just sit and think. I feel that there is a MAJOR revelation that will change everything just on the horizon. I am not allowing myself, at this moment, to go and access that information. The time is coming, though, I can feel it and know source will show me the way if I allow it.