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I’ve come to see things a bit different as of late. My EFT therapist said that I should be thankful for all the things that are coming up emotionally for me.

The people are showing me where I need to work on myself. If I didn’t have the vibration active in my being already, other people would not be able to “make me feel” a certain way.

A “step back” evaluation of my current emotional setpoint has me seeing that there are other things at play beyond the situation with my husband. My mom is very much back in the picture right now. She has a very dramatic situaiton going on and my husband and I are working with her to get her house sold and helping her move down here near where we are.

And I am voluntarily doing this. On the good days, I am totally okay with this. On the not so good days, it totally throws me for a loop. I have seen myself become an active participant in the drama, like times gone by. Those well worn ruts are still there and I jumped my track right back into them.

A strong current, at play in me, is in regards to people not listening to me and doing things for themselves that will help them to a better place. Things that they have said would help, and not just me being bossily telling them what to do. The frustration builds up in me because they know what they need to be doing but aren’t doing it and are complaining about it and I am right in there with them trying to fix the situation in order to make my experience better.

DOH!! Major lightbulb moment for me in regards to that revelation.

The frustration builds up in me because they know what they need to be doing but aren’t doing it and are complaining about it.

Let me rephrase that.

The frustration builds up in me because I know what I need to be doing but am not doing it and am complaining about it.

I can see that is a pretty valid comment on my part. I am making the conscious effort to get out of my husband’s and mom’s boats (That “one leg in each boat” thing is pretty harrowing! LOL) and decided to get back in my own boat.

I need to put my wants and needs back into my own hands. No one is responsible for my happiness and well-being but me. I have cut back on my work hours massively (gotta love terrific employees!) and now am able to do things for myself when I want to. For a short while there, I was thinking that I had to run out and find other people to interact with or new circumstances to interact with in order to make me feel better / happier / more content with my life.

I realize that isn’t so. In doing that, I am actually running from the only situation that really matters and will make an immediate difference in my experience. My relationship with myself. So right now, I am focusing on me and feeling better right now. Being present in the NOW and not rehashing how it has been in the past or prophesizing potential future outcomes. Right now, in this moment, I can see things as they are, perfect. This moment, this second, is exactly how it should be. It’s all good and I know, without an ounce of doubt, that it will all work out okay in the end.

Okay. Something is really up, but I am not exactly sure where it is coming from. Honestly, I think I am doing really well most of the time. Until, that is, something crops up and pops me on the head, out of the blue… or out of the oblivious as Abraham is fond of saying.

I think my husband’s illness is wearing me down. I want to be okay with it all, and feel that I am, most of the time. But when I am not okay with it, boy, am I NOT okay with it all. I currently have a strong stress undercurrent going on about it all. It’s kind of funny and kind of annoying in an “I did that” sort of way. Right now the stress is manifesting in facial twitching - not anything that anyone would really notice but me. The more stressed I get, the more I twitch. Fun.

My husband and I can, and do, discuss all this. The communication is there and it is always a case of both of us being heard and understood. It’s a loving, understanding conversation, but, unfortunately, at this point, there is only so much that he can do to sort things out. He’s trying to get to where he wants to be and his lack of getting there is not due to unwillingness or lack of effort.

I am at a point where I realize that where I am is not where I want to be. I know that my happiness is up to me no matter what the circumstances are. I’m not able to get there right now and it bothers me. I felt the fool yesterday when I was driving home and started crying when “I Can See Clearly” by Jimmy Nash started playing on the radio.

I have been tapping on all the issues on a regular basis, but the fact stands that he is unable to be there for me emotionally or physically. I am tired of tapping on the same issues over and over again. For some reason, my stress over it all keeps coming back. I just want to be okay with it all. I want to be happy no matter what is going on around me. It’s my choice to stay or go and I have chosen to stay. I am just muddling my way to seeing the situation clearly. I am so ready for my blue skies and rainbows, but keep seeing the obstacles instead.

I’ll get there….. eventually. The solution will come, I know. Sigh….

In this video, Jordan is sharing her version of the basics of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).

If you are interested in working with Jordan directly, you can schedule an appointment from her website, http://www.ezhealthyme.com

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The Basics of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

I came across this video from a post on SpiritualBlog.com. This series of videos from Jordan Savage, an EFT expert, are very nicely done and I really enjoyed watching them. I am going to share the full series on my blog for your viewing pleasure.

In this video, Jordan is telling about the basics of EFT and how she came to study EFT.

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The Concept of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

This process is best used when you are between 1. Joy / Appreciation / Empowered / Freedom / Love and 5. Optimism .

The Creative Workshop is best used when you want to focus on something that is important to you and want to focus on it in a way that is more positive. In doing so, you will help boost your dominate vibration to a more positive, powerful one. If you are not in a happy place, this is probably not the process for you.

Here’s an example of how to create your “creative workshop”.

Abraham suggests that you sit and write out your thoughts as it helps you become more focused.

Get 4 pieces of paper. At the top of the first page write “My Body.”

Under that title, write a short list of what you would like to have regarding your body, like

I want to return to my ideal body weight. I want to get a great haircut. I want to find some wonderful new clothes. I want to feel strong and fit.

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Then, happily daydream about WHY you would like these things and write your “because” statements under your want list. This focused writing will help you activate the energy around the things in your life that you deal with on a daily basis. You will be come more clear about what you are wanting and focusing, positively, on the desire.

You might stumble a little if you come across some issues that are a little touchy. In my opinion, as Abraham doesn’t endorse any outside therapy, this is a perfect time to start tapping away. The weight issue has always been an “issue” for me and tapping on my fears of losing weight or the fear of failure to lose weight was always an undercurrent. Using EFT to soften the resistance to these issues has been an immense help.

Once you have done your reasons for wanting what you want, contemplate it a little. Daydream about the fabulous body you have created and how wonderful you look and feel. That positive boost has shifted your vibration well into the right direction to allow those things to come into your experience.

On the remaining papers, but the heading of My Home, My Rela­tionships and My Work. Repeat the steps that you have done above with each of these issues. If you have a difficult time coming up with a list of things you want, you can skip on to the next sheet.

Abraham gives quite a nice list of examples in the book between pages 155-165.

This relaxed and simple process will cause an increased acti­vation of the things that matter most to you, and you will imme­diately begin to see evidence of increased activity in circumstances and events that are associated with these topics.

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Abraham suggests that you do the creative workshop once a day for about 15 minutes. You should only do this process if you are in a good mood and able to look forward to what you want with the expectation that it will be coming you way.

The positive focusing, as done in this process, will open the door to allow these things to flow into your experience.