Archive for January, 2009

“The Greatest Gift You Can Give To Your Child.” – YouTube Video by EvolutionAvenue

If you have the ability to desire it, the Universe has the ability to deliver it. You’ve just got to line up with what you want, which means—be as happy as you can be as often as you can be there, and let everything else take care of itself.

Excerpted from a workshop in Asheville, NC on Sunday, April 25th, 2004

Quote from Abraham-Hicks

I went to a meetup group for the Triangle Women’s Connection last week and the topic was on goal setting, as it was the first meeting of the new year.

I have been “planning” on attending the group for months, but I always found a reason not to go. This time, I decided that there should be no more excuses and actually got out there and did it! (Yeah me!)

So, what is a BHAG, you ask? A BHAG is a Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal!

The presentation by Leslie Flowers was actually very good. She covered three basic rules for choosing a goal for yourself.

1) It should be so big that it excites you.
2) It should be so big that is scares you.
3) You don’t know how to do everything to achieve it.

The process of setting your goal also required that you not fall into some common pitfalls:

1) You shouldn’t set your goals based on what you have been able to accomplish in the past.

For example, if you are making $40,000 a year, a goal of making $50,000 is not one that will challenge you. You could conceivably figure out how to make an additional $10,000 a year on your own.

2) Worrying about the HOW the goal will be met.

Being the control freaks that we are, we like having some sense of control. If we have a bit of the how worked out, we are good to go. Some of the biggest and best goals are the ones that you have no idea how they are going to come into fruition. It becomes a case of stop, look and listen for the guidance that is always there and leading you toward your ulitmate joy filled goals. When you are planning the path to rigorously, you could very well overlook the little voice that leads you on a slightly different path, a different path that could mean the difference of something being good and something being beyond your wildest dreams.

3) Wondering if you are worthy of your goal.

I really like the way Leslie put in it in the handout so I am going to quote her here: “It’s about if it’s worthy of you as you trade your life in pursuing it. It has to be BIG to be worthy of you.” Ultimately it comes down to understanding that your are worthy of your wildest extraordinary dreams.

The women in the group shared some pretty enormous goals. I kind of sat off to the side and tried to think about what my goal would be, if I had a goal. It was a really odd feeling to me. This was sort of a business networking meeting, but where business is concerned, I am good to go. I KNOW that when we are ready to move and increase business, that I can do what needs to be done in order to make it happen.

I guess goals come in many arenas: work, love, money, spiritual, health and many more, I am sure.

Sure, I had goals in most of those areas, but I couldn’t really find anything that fit the big three criteria for the BHAG. Most of the stuff I was considering, I knew how to achieve it or was actually already in the process of achieving it.

I decided to go home and think on it to see what I could come up with as the next meeting, in February, we are to bring our BHAG to the group to share. LOL Talk about pressure!!

Okay, so anyone care to share their BHAG?? Mine will be in another post!

I received an email recently that I thought would be valuable to share with the readers of my blog.

I “discovered” your web site today and was inspired to ask you a question. You seem to be something of an expert at using the law of attraction and I was wondering how you do it. Please allow me to elaborate: I get what the law of attraction is and basically how it works but I am having difficulty getting anything to happen for me. Quotes from Abraham, and others, say allow things to happen and good things are waiting for you to catch up with them etc. Nobody ever says HOW though, at least not that I have ever been able to understand. So, since you seem to have a firm grasp on this, may I ask you to explain how (in general terms) someone like me can allow things to happen in my life now. I hope my question makes sense and I thank you for your time in reading this.

It never fails to amaze me when people believe that I have a good grasp on this law of attraction thing. I have the same ups and downs as everyone else. I guess that is the blessing of the internet. If you don’t write about the crap, people assume that things are moving along swimmingly. And for the most part, understanding the law of attraction, in theory, is what keeps me from expounding on the down times ad nauseum.

I think an email to my buddy, Lyman, at Creating A Better Life, at the beginning of December, helps to clarify my feelings the best. He had a request on his blog asking for readers to share what was right with their lives. I avoided sharing for quite a while, but eventually did. Lyman sent me a thanks email and I replied to him.

From Lyman
Thanks for playing, Vickie! I really appreciate your contribution… especially since you were one of the people who first helped me know that it’s a good thing to look at what’s right with me.

My Reply:
Well, to be honest, LOL I was avoiding your request for “what is right in your life” for a while. I was in one of those funk places and was working on getting myself back to pointing in the right direction. Your post made me point in a better direction and made me look at what was going well with my life, what I had to be thankful for, instead of the perceived battle I was internally going through.

Your email had to be fished from the Trash folder. For some reason, your thoughts, about me, made me feel like a fraud. Sort of like, “I can talk the talk but not walk the walk”, or “Do as I say, not as I do”. That self judgment is probably the worst critic any of us can have.

Paddle by paddle, little by little, I am turning in the Stream. It’s not supposed to be a battle. LOL I KNOW that but … well … sometimes those old patterns creep up on you without you even realizing them.

Okay, enough of that, just wanted to let you know that I appreciated your reply and I really did want to reply sooner. Just took a while to quiet those nay saying voices.

Now, don’t get me wrong, my life is moving along quite well. The majority of the time, I AM faced in the right direction with an attitude that allows the good to come to me. I love hearing from my readers and do try to offer suggestions where I can. Ultimately, though, it is an inside job where you put the principals of the law of attraction into use.

My reply to the reader that sent that original email, is below:

Let me start out by saying that I am definitely not an expert. I plug along getting it right sometimes and not getting things to work out other times, just like everyone else. When things don’t work out as I hoped, I can usually look back and see how I might have focused differently. Most of the time, I can definitely see a pattern of thought or behavior that was counter productive. And, well, honestly, some of those behaviors and thought patterns are pretty darn tough to overcome. I find myself doing the hindsight thing over and over again on the same core issues a lot of the times. At times, success to where you want to be / have is a slow process of moving a bit further each time.

I can’t tell you how to get what you want, but I can tell you what helps me along the journey. (And it IS a journey.)

1) Finding things to appreciate.

For me just appreciating life in general and everything that you come in contact with helps get you in line with the “come to me, these things that I want” vibe. If you can’t look at what you are wanting and hold that in an appreciative view, you shouldn’t keep looking at it Look else where and find things to appreciate there.

2) Dealing with those nay saying voices in your head when they come up.

These are the ones that have you thinking that you aren’t worthy and that you can’t have what you want and that you don’t deserve to be happy. They are the voices that say you can’t possibly have what you want in life with out a huge struggle. This is probably one of the more intensive parts of getting what you want because these voices are hooked into the core of our being most of the time. They are the voices of our past that were repeated over and over again until we because programmed to believe what they were saying. That negative programming really puts a damper on our ability to manifest what we are desiring.

There are many modalities out there that will help you work through these issues, but, if you read my blog, you will see that Emotional Freedom Techinique (EFT) is my process of choice. What ever helps you release those false beliefs about your worth is a good thing.

3) Have Faith that what you desire or more is coming to you.

This is a hard one too for some people. It took me a long time to actually get to this point. I am at a point that I know that life is supposed to be good and that I deserve to have a good life. Once I actually stop trying to orchestrate the HOW the goodness will arrive, it tends to arrive much quicker and more easily. I have faith that it all turns out okay even if it doesn’t turn out how you envisioned it to. Sometimes our visions of what we want, and our holding tight to them, are actually the things that keep us from achieving the joy we are so desperately desiring and deserving. When we are so focused on the outcome, we sometimes fail to see the bigger, more beautiful and wonderful potential outcome.

It is all a journey. You can’t get it wrong because you never get it done. We need to stop being so hard on ourselves. There is always a new beginning in the next second, but if we keep looking back at what failed to materialize, it slows the process down.

Basically, I think it all comes down to having the desire to be happy. All those things you want to materialize in your life are due to your belief that, in having what you desire, you will feel better. I truly believe that we all deserve to be happy. And again, happiness is a real inside job. It takes work sometimes but it is so worth the effort.